【家长说】高标准对应高要求，在斐特思真正实现快乐成长 | Parent Interview
2021-03-11
父母是孩子成长路上最密切的见证人。孩子是否在教育中进步，最先感知到的一定是父母。广州斐特思公学的第一学期已经落幕，我们特意邀请到FCG家委会主席、幼儿园学生家长Alice的爸爸张先生作为家长代表，就这一学期孩子的成长进行一个反馈。
Parents are the first educators, tuned in and focused on the growth of their child. When a child is making progress，they must be the first to perceive and recognise it. As the first term at Fettes College Guangzhou, comes to an end, we specially invited Mr. Zhang, Chairman of the FCG Parents and Friends Association and the father of Alice, as the parent representative to give us feedback on the growth of his daughter during her first term at school.
Alice一家三口
采访Alice爸爸
The Interview of Alice's Father
| Alice爸爸 | |
| 大家好，我是Alice的爸爸，从事金融及综合商业工作。 | I am Alice's father, and I work in finance and general business. |
| FCG小记者 | |
| 您和孩子的关系是怎样的？您认为您和Alice妈妈的教育方式是怎样的？ | What is your relationship with Alice? How do you describe your parenting style, alongside Alice's mother? |
| Alice爸爸 | |
| 关系非常好，因为我非常爱她，她也非常爱我。她在家的日常行为特点是只要与游戏玩乐有关就找我，生活行为就找妈妈。我认为我们的教养方式是高要求高回应型的，就是上周园长的关于教养方式工作坊所说的权威型吧！我们对Alice有很高的期望，对她衣食住行、生活习惯、学习习惯都有很高的要求，我们会用孩子能听懂的方式跟她沟通。同时当孩子有任何需求时或者有各种天马行空的问题时，我们都会用孩子能理解的方式给与及时的回应。 | The relationship is very strong with Alice as we love her very much. At home, when it is related to games and fun, Alice will come to me and her mother supports and cares for her with her daily life. I think our parenting method is filled with high expectations with highly responsive communication, which is the ‘authoritative parenting style’ mentioned by the Head of the Early Years during the Parent Workshop last week. We have high expectations for Alice, such as her standard of nutrition, clothing, housing, living habits, and study habits. We will communicate with her in a way that she can understand. At the same time, when Alice has any needs or various unconstrained questions, we will respond in a timely manner in a way that she can comprehend. |
| FCG小记者 | |
对于孩子的校园生活，您最关注什么？ |
What do you care most about your child's campus life? |
| Alice爸爸 | |
最关注Alice的校园生活依照重点优先顺序分别是：安全、健康、快乐和学习书本知识。 |
Regarding Alice’s’ school life, I pay the most attention to safety, health, happiness and her learning knowledge. We want Alice to have a holistic approach in her education, be happy and independent. |
| FCG小记者 | |
为什么在众多学校之中选择了FCG？ |
Why did you choose FCG among many schools? |
| Alice爸爸 | |
| 原因非常简单： 1.信任学校官宣关于其背景的卓越事实； 2.面对面接触到校方负责人及各种工作人员的时候，他们给我留下的良好印象值得信任。 |
The reasons are very simple: I have known about the excellent background of the school, the staff and the facilities. 2. When I met with the school leaders and teachers, they gave me a strong sense of trust and confidence in what they are achieving with Alice and the other students. |
| FCG小记者 | |
目前孩子已入读斐特思一个学期，请问您关注到了孩子有哪些成长和变化？ |
·At present, Alice has been enrolled in Fettes College Guangzhou for one term. Have you noticed any growth and changes in Alice? |
| Alice爸爸 | |
成长和变化都非常多，比如Alice总是很快乐，很愿意上幼儿园，在这一点我要特别谢谢你们！每个孩子对自己的父母依赖肯定是很强的，但是她能脱离父母，很好的融入幼儿园。开学前一天孩子很兴奋，早上五点就起床了，因为要上幼儿园啦！从这些细节可以看出斐特思公学幼儿园的教师团队为孩子们营造了可信赖的“寓教于乐”的学习环境，只有身心愉悦，孩子才愿意学习。情绪是一切的一切，我们在陪伴她时也会尽量为她营造愉悦的氛围。我其实是一个很高要求的人，但是我会注意用温和的语气语调和Alice说话。 另外我发现孩子的语言交流有了很大的发展，经常会说一些让我们惊讶的词，比如“太完美了！”或者一些连接词、序词、因果词等，而且用词非常准确，很符合当时的场景。我也发现孩子在家会自己想象各种不同的游戏场景，沉浸在不同的角色中，有很多的自言自语，大量的语言表达。孩子的语言表达和想象力方面确实是突飞猛进的。Alice在幼儿园也学会了关爱身边的人，比如会照顾邻居家的小弟弟妹妹。 |
This has been tremendous! We have observed a lot of growth and change, for example, Alice is always happy and willing to go to school. I want to thank you all for this! Every child must be very dependent on their parents, but she can separate from us and integrate into the school life very well. Alice was very excited the day before school started and got up at five o'clock in the morning! From these observation we can tell that the Early Years team in Fettes College Guangzhou has worked hard to “create a reliable education filled with fun learning environments” for pupils. Only when the body and mind are happy can children be willing to learn. Emotions are everything, and we will try our best to create a pleasant atmosphere for her when we are with her. I am actually a very demanding person, but I will pay attention to speaking with Alice in a gentle tone and at her level. In addition, I have found that her Language & Communication has developed immensely. She often says words that surprise us, such as "too perfect!" or some conjunctions, prefixes and her vocabulary bank of casual everyday words is growing daily. The words are very accurate and fit the context at the time. I also found that she will imagine different games, creative scenes when at home and immerse herself in different roles. We notice a lot of self-talk and a lot of language expression. Our child's language expression and imagination are indeed advancing by leaps and bounds. Alice has learned to care for people around her in school and enjoys helping take care of the little siblings or neighbours. |
| FCG小记者 | |
您认为什么才是优秀的家校配合？斐特思在家校配合上做的如何？ |
What do you think is excellent home-school cooperation? |
| Alice爸爸 | |
优秀的家校配合应该是： 1.在开学初，校方给家长明确的（书面文件）本学期的预期综合总教学目标，然后就是基于这个目标的阶段性小目标； 2.学校负责完成教学目标的专业工作（学生在校内的时间），家长依据学校的指引（书面文件）负责完成教学目标的辅助工作（学生在校外的时间）； 3.学校牵头，建立起完善的家校沟通渠道，让家长们能第一时间获取和反馈学生的校内外情况。 目前，在幼儿园的家校配合上，我认为校方做得很不错。 |
Excellent home-school cooperation should be: At the beginning of the school year, the school should give parents a clear expected student learning goal for the semester, and then the staged small goal based on this goal. The school is responsible for completing the professional teaching, parents should be responsible for the auxiliary work to complete the teaching goals, according to the school’s guidelines. The school takes the lead to establish an effective home-school communication channel which allows parents to obtain and feedback the students' situation inside and outside the school. I think the Early Years school has done a very good job in coordinating the communication and building a bridge between home and school. |
| FCG小记者 | |
我们组织了各种家校活动，包括亲子活动、家长会、家庭教育工作坊等等，每次您和Alice妈妈都非常积极的参与，请问这些活动对您是否有帮助？ |
Fettes College Guangzhou have organised various home-school activities, inclding parent-child activities, parent-teacher meetings, parent workshops, etc. Every time you and Alice’s mother are very active in participating; are these activities helpful to you? |
| Alice爸爸 | |
| 首先感谢园方很重视家长工作，每次活动都很认真，也很有体系。无论是熟悉或者不熟悉的主题，我们都很乐意来参加。因为所有的家校活动都是有针对性、逻辑性和实践性的，肯定对孩子目前阶段的发展是很有帮助的。我们对家庭教育有大概的自我认知，但是这些认知是碎片化的，参加了这些工作坊后让我们能将碎片化的知识串起来，连接起来，对家庭教育的方方面面有了更全面系统的认知。这些活动都非常好，这也是为什么我一定要来参加这些活动。而且一定是和Alice妈妈两个人一起来参加，因为只有同频学习，才能够更好的同频培养好Alice。如果不同频就很难保证教育的效果。 | First of all, I would like to thank Fettes College Guangzhou Early Years for attaching great importance to the work of parents. Every activity is very serious and systematic. Whether it is a familiar or unfamiliar subject, we are very happy to participate. All home-school activities are targeted, logical and practical, they are definitely helpful to the pupil's current development. We have a general self-awareness of family education but this cognition is fragmented. After participating in these workshops, we can string together and connect the fragmented knowledge and have a more comprehensive system for all aspects of family education. These activities are brilliant, which is why I must come to participate in these events. It must be together with Alice's mother because only by learning at the same pace can Alice develop. If it we use different approaches to home and school life, it is difficult to guarantee the effect of education. |
| FCG小记者 | |
对于那些正在考虑来到FCG入读的家庭，您有什么想对他们说的吗？ |
For those families who are considering coming to FCG , do you have anything to say to them? |
| Alice爸爸 | |
| 客观地说，不是任何一所学校都适合所有孩子，即使它是全世界排名第一的学校。我认为要入读FCG的孩子，应该有以下需求取向： 1. 拥有国际视野，建立国际价值观； 2. 对国际人文个性化观念的适应，强调尊重个体，与不同价值观的人相处是和谐的,而不是“谁对谁错”的原则； 3. 对于知识的学习是基于社会适应能力为主导，而不是以升读全国统一高考为第一优先的； 4.孩子毕业后，坚定其生活和工作的范围的选择是全球性的而不是固化在某一个区域的。 |
There is no one school suitable for all children, all children learn different and we need to recognise this. Even if it is the No.1 school in the world, some children need more. I think children who want to enter FCG should have the following orientation to ensure they succeed: 1.Have an international vision and be ready to establish international values. 2.Adapt to the individual concept of international humanities, emphasise respect for the individual and get along with people who may have different values in harmony, rather than, the principle of "who is right and who is wrong". 3.Learning knowledge is based on social adaptability as the leading factor, rather than the priority of entering the unified national college entrance examination. 4.After graduation, the child is determined to live and work globally. |
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